The 64-year-old Belgian named only as Jan, was married to his 48-year-old Indonesian wife, Monica, for 19 years only to find out that his wife was also a man and has been lying to him the whole time. Now he is seeking for annulment.
Jan and Monica got married in 1993.
They went through a lot of process for his wife’s documents as the Belgian authorities questioned “her true identity” but was able to convinced them.
Jan said, “I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits.”
The couple lives a normal life for 19 years and they both chose not to have children because Jan had two from his previous marriage.
She fooled him by pretending to menstruate, using sanitary towels to “conceal the truth”.
He said, “Even during sex, I never noticed anything,”
According to Jan, Monica is like a “big sister” to his children and their marriage starts to crumble when she got a new full-time job.
“Monica began to change very much, my oldest son saw her sometimes at a nightclub. She began to wear very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops, so her abdomen was completely exposed,” Jan said.
Soon, rumors began to ring the bell, Jan also found “amorous messages” from other men on her computer.
He later confronted her that turned into a violent argument, in which police were needed to intervene.
He said, “A friend told me that he had heard that Monica was actually a sex-changed man. I could not believe it. My son heard similar rumors,”
“I pushed her against the wall and said: Now I know the truth. Are you a man? She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man. My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came.”
“I feel I’ve been assaulted.” he told the Het Nieuwsblad Newspaper.
Jan is now undergoing psychiatric treatment due to his wife’s scandalous admission. The legal proceedings to have the marriage annulled is under way. However, the Belgian courts refused to allow him to evict Monica out of the family home.